Friday, April 3, 2009

What a load of crap!!!

I'm sorry, but I have to take a minute to vent about something totally ridiculous.

So in the past 6 months I have been completely ditched by two of my best friends. Why? Because they are lame.

Both have been friend for a really long time. One since high school and the other since early college. Both have recently got married and stopped talking to me - without telling me they don't want to be friends anymore! When I confronted them, one said that his fiance at the time was jealous of our friendship so he had to stop talking to me. I've never even met her! She doesn't know anything about me or our friendship! Does she has that many trust or self esteem issues that her husband can't keep an old friend? WTF is that?

And the other was fine with our friendship until his wife had baby, now he refuses to talk to me. He won't even respond when I ask him what's going on.

You know, if you don't want to be my friend, fine. I get it, things change, people have lives. I'm not that self centered to think that the world revolves around me. But I don't deserve to be ignored. I think I at least the respect of being told what's going on rather than being treated like I never existed. I'm not a piece of trash that you can just throw out and forget about.

I told my husband when we got married that my friends are my friends. And if he doesn't like them then he better learn to deal with it because I wasn't changing things for him. And I would expect him to say the same thing to me. We are who we in part because of our friends and I would always treat them with the utmost respect and love because they are a part of me. So I don't understand why I don't deserve the same.

But, even after all of this, I know that if they said sorry and came back I would probably take them back, because that's the kind of person I am and I know that love makes some people do really stupid things. I probably wouldn't have the same amount of trust for them. I would always be worried if they were going to pick up and leave again. But everyone deserves a second chance.

I hope they live happy lives. After I hit the "post" button, I'm going to do my best to forget about them as much as they have apparently forgotten about me.


  1. I hate when that happens. I was always flustered and confused when it happened to me. If the SO is so worried about it, how much trust is really in their relationship to begin with, or why not try to make friends with you, too, and they can both be your friends.

  2. I know! I know he's doing it because he loves her, but that to me is a clear sign that something is wrong. Either she doesn't trust him or has some serious self esteem issue. Neither one is healthy. And I would've loved to meet her and spend time with her if she'd given me the chance.