Thursday, May 28, 2009

At least I got to say Goodbye....

..... to my friend. I blogged about the situation a couple of months ago. I won't rehash the whole things now, but today I got to say I final goodbye. Thank you for the apology, and I'm really truly glad that you are in a happy place. I wish you nothing but the world and all the good things that are in it. But that doesn't change how hurt I feel.

This experience has taught me a few things.

1) Just because someone hurts you, you shouldn't pull back from trusting others. I need to work harder at the friendships I have now more than ever. Because everytime one ends, that makes that ones you still have that much more precious.

2) I am worth it! I am worth good friendships. I should not sell myself short because I'm afraid of getting hurt. I can not settle for less. I need to find friends who will treat me as I deserve to be treated.

3) Friendship needs to be free. You need to give it freely with no need for gifts, or praise, or rewards. You ask nothing in return but friendship from the other person. At times it is hard, but in the end, you must love that person to the core of your heart.

4) Hating those that hurt you does no good. Even after everything, I cannot find it in my heart to hate this person. Even after being ignored and disposed of, I can't find a place for hate. It does not exist for me. I know that he thought he was doing what was right, and that's all anyone can really try to do. So be happy that you were given what you were given and move on. One day you will find a friend who truly deserves you.


  1. Well, I haven't read about the "situation" but you have a good, healthy way of looking at it. Just remember you will need to "mourn" and let yourself do it. Cuz the head knows all of the good reasons why this is okay but the heart will still hurt. Let it, you have to so that you can move on...Blessings...

  2. I like you! I'm divorced and what you said totally relates to my situation with my ex. I 'thought' he was my friend. It can be hard to see sometimes but I deserve to be treated better. I wish you the best and hope you have a lot of amazing friends who treat you well!

  3. I can relate to this post. I have had to let go of a couple friendships this year. Hate is sometimes hard to let go of. Your words are inspiring!